How to avoid stage fright - Prevention is better than cure.

There is no shortcut to this.  Being well prepared is a big part of avoiding nervousness.  Being prepared is a good strategy to prevent the fight or flight response from kicking in.  By preparing yourself well, you are reducing the perception of danger.  The very process of preparation helps you calm your nerves, thereby preventing pre-presentation nerves.  Time management and planning techniques would be helpful at this stage. Make good use of the days or weeks prior to your presentation by researching, planning your presentation and practicing.

Before your presentation, try to take every single measure to prevent yourself from getting nervous in the first place. If you have had to suddenly talk in front of a big crowd and have stage fright, this would be because you have not had time for preparing your speech.  However, if you have even a few minutes notice, using this time to plan your speech would be really helpful.  If you do this, even if you get nervous and have stage fright, your practice will make sure that you presentation goes as smoothly as possible.

Here are a list of things to do beforehand:
•    Prepare meticulously:  Research diligently and study thoroughly about what you are going to present.  Knowing what you are talking about is going to give you confidence.
•    Rehearse repeatedly: There is no substitute for practice. If you have sufficient practice, you are sure to go on stage and do your speech. It also helps you feel more confident and you will be able to complete your presentation even if you feel nervous.
•    Come early: It is a good idea to come early and check out the venue and familiarize yourself with the surroundings.  You should plan where you want to stand and get a feel of the lighting. This will help you feel more in control of the situation and help in reducing your nervousness. Also, check the equipment such as mikes and visual aids that your might want to use to make sure they are in working order.
•    Dress professionally:  Make sure you are wearing clothing appropriate for the occasion. Don’t wear a tuxedo or an evening gown to a casual party or vice versa. Remember clothes make the man and dressing well will give you confidence to face a crowd. and in something that makes you confidence.
•    Greet members of the audience: Starting off with friendly body language and positive attitude sets the tone for the presentation. Getting to know even a part of your audience in advance will make you more comfortable while presenting.

 http://www.creative-commons-images.com/handwriting/images/prevention.jpg

Fight or flight - the mechanics of stage fright

 

It was New Year’s Eve and I was with my colleagues at the annual office party. I was told that I would be the one thanking the organizers on behalf of everyone. Busy with work, I didn’t really pay much attention to this task and thought I could just wing it. But, when the time came, my heart started racing, my mouth became dry, and my vision became hazy. To this day, I don’t know how or what I actually said that day.

That was not a one off incident either.  Addressing crowds seems to be a huge part of every job I’ve had – from training staff in computer basics to working as an interpreter in my community and experiencing various degrees of stage fright on a regular basis has become part of my life.  For the past 10 years, I’ve been learning as much as possible about what stage fright is, why does it occur, what actually happens during and what some ways to overcome them are. Like millions of other people, I suffer from stage fright.

So just what is stage fright?  According to ADAA, “those who are filled with feelings of dread and panic, degree of nervous apprehension when preparing to speak up or perform in front of a group] may be suffering from a form of social anxiety disorder” called stage fright. Stage fright isn’t something that is only limited to happening in front of large audiences (on stages) but anywhere the person might be the center of attention.

Shara Sand, clinical assistant professor of psychology at New York's Yeshiva University says that stage fright represents the fight or flight response.  The fight or flight response triggers physiological responses like sweaty palms, racing heart, adrenaline (also called the fight-or-flight hormone) production, which leads to shakiness – these are the symptoms of someone experiencing stage fright. No doubt, this response has played an important part in the survival of humankind since prehistoric times. When we face something that our brain interprets as a dangerous situation, this response is triggered.  So when we are the center of attention and we know that we are being judged, this is perceived as a dangerous situation as it affects our position in the social structure.  Thus, understanding the physiology of stage fright is the basis for overcoming stage fright.
References

Goldberg, J. (2015). Stage Fright (Performance Anxiety). Retrieved July 11, 2017, from http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide/stage-fright-performance-anxiety#1

Esposito, J. (n.d.). Conquering Stage Fright. Retrieved July 11, 2017, from https://www.adaa.org/understanding-anxiety/social-anxiety-disorder/treatment/conquering-stage-fright

Enright, P. (2007, December 9). Pulling back the curtain on stage fright. www.nbcnews.com. Retrieved July 11, 2017, from http://www.nbcnews.com/id/20631646/ns/health-mental_health/t/pulling-back-curtain-stage-fright/#.WWUmUFGQypo

https://c1.staticflickr.com/4/3252/2814951286_f2246ac6d5_b.jpg

In health, and in sickness

It is quite rare that I fall sick, and I am thankful to God for keeping me healthy even when my daughter is down with the flu, or my son has a bad case of the sniffles. I boldly, and regularly, venture into germy zones, serving up soups or handing out various meds, confident with the knowledge that I am off-limits for these and other parasites.

However, the Lord doth send me some of the above-mentioned once a year or so, if only to remind me that I am as human as the next guy, or gal, as the case may be. For one who is accustomed to playing the nurse, I seem to be totally useless at remembering what I have to eat or when I have to rest. Even the common cold seems to get the better of me, and those around me end up getting the worst. 

I suppose, being the daughter of a newsman, I am a natural at giving my family updates about my health status, which goes something like “I feel sick!” every 5 minutes. I guess the family has been praying hard for some relief. So hard, that its got me up and blogging !

for kids........... by kids ! A festival of caring.

Last night, many kids went around neighborhoods to be Tricked or Treated. For the past few weeks, those celebrating this 'Pagan' festivity unpacked and shopped, decorating - as strange as the word seems in this context - front yards, doorways and patios. To the lay onlooker these skeletons and witches seemed unwelcoming and even scary. The artistic carved pumpkins and prepared to light them up with carefully inserted candles. My husband, ever curious, ruminated about the reason behind such negative overtones in a celebration involving children.

The night dawned and I was coerced into overseeing the trip around our neighborhood. In the damp, dark night, one could easily feel scared even without the spooky lights and symbols around. The kids quickly collected treats house after house. Finally, we were at the spookiest, scariest, eeriest.... (feel free to add any other scary adjectives here !)... house. These people had really gone all out to scare people. I decided to stick close to the kids. The witch at the end could be seen moving - he was real ! The home-owner had even bothered to dress up ! I heard him instruct the kids to walk through the pathway. As we approached, I could almost touch the "vampire" hanging from the tree in front. Then I passed a fake witch. Hurricane Sandy had not done any damage here. Now, smoke was billowing out of something on the left, scary noises buzzed from hidden speakers. At the far end, the 'witch' was handing out treats generously and warning the kids not to be afraid of the scary thingummy-gigs that popped up even as we stood there forgetting to breathe. I had just seen the light.

Back home, I excitedly reasoned that the dark, cold weather with bare trees and dry leaves could easily scare people, especially kids. But that night, the kids had been taught a lesson. They had been the scary ones and they had gained treats by being brave and seeing the fakes for what they really were. Happy Halloween !

Where a year passes by in a jiffy !

Whether it was Rip Van Winkle’s long sleep, or Penelope’s long wait for Odysseus, or our own Lord Ram’s banishment for 14 years, it seemed an impossibly long time and I could hardly imagine so many years as a child or teenager.  That was, of course, much before I moved to the middle-east. 

Wahiba Sands, Oman

Ibn Battuta mall, Dubai

While Oil-rig workers work 28-day cycles, and those in the merchant navy work 6-month shifts, those in the middle-east go home once a year. In this part of the world, one sees more often than not, the circumstantial “bachelor”.  Either due to constraints at work, or different needs of the family, men from all over the world leave their families behind. While, these men, without doubt, selflessly resign themselves to a life of loneliness,  my sympathies lie with the wives and children who almost run single-parent households. The poor blue-collar worker is begrudged a homeward return ticket only every other year.  On the other hand, many families enjoy the luxuries afforded by the precious family visa, driving around in luxury cars, discovering hidden delights in Arabian sands and flying home for a month-long trip home every year.

Amidst these inequalities, my wonder is about how a year can fleet so quickly by!

"Out of sight, out of mind." Really !

I can never miss Muscat, or my old kitchen, for that matter.  After Abu Dhabi ‘s high rises, convenience stores,  late shopping hours,  cheap taxis,  et al,  this had a feel of going back to the stone ages.  Back in 2008 when we had moved there, expecting such a close neighboring nation to be more or less  the same, we were in for a shock.  To begin with, there was no door delivery of anything except drinking water cans – for which I had to make only about a hundred calls for them to begin the service.  Life felt painful even for the month or so it took to go through the myriad car showrooms that were spread along the expanse of Sultan Qaboos Road, the arterial Highway. Queries about anything from idli batter to used cars were met with the same sad-faced reply – Gonu.  The cyclone that battered Oman a year before will always haunt its people.  We decided to make it a short stint in this challenging place.

 But Muscat has its own magic and proceeded to get under our collective skins.  You cant really ignore a city that looks beautiful by day or night. The Majestic Sultan Qaboos Mosque, the new Opera house,  the beautiful  white beaches,  the soothing white buildings,  the  landscaped side-walks and roundabouts  are veritable delights to behold.  The sight of the corniche with the sea on one side and mountains on the other evokes images from an earlier era when men would stand guard looking out to sea, wary of seafarers.  A visit to the Mutrah Souk is like giving an all-day sucker to a little kid.  The mountainous terrain affords beautiful views of the Arabian Sea, but one always wonders how people of yore managed to get across  on foot without all the beautiful roads, fast cars and cheap petrol.

 And what friendly people !  In the early days, before our lofty Pajero (from Mitsubishi) had taken us in, and the Hertz rent-a-car had broken down in the middle of nowhere,  almost all passers- by  with spare seats in their cars offered help.  Although breakdowns  are uncommon in this Car-Heaven, when it does happen, you can see people helping to charge batteries or help changing a tire ! 

Plus it afforded all the luxuries of home.  One does not really have to go looking for an Indian Store in that part of the world.  A beautiful Krishna temple and an old world Shiva temple offer spiritual bliss to the tens of thousands who swarm them.  Indian restaurants,  Cinemas showing the latest Hindi, Malayalam and Tamil movies,  the Indian Social club,  even vegetarian restaurants  evoke the warmth you find only back home.

I saw "My Fair Lady" some 3 decades back. I can however recollect that it was only after Eliza Doolittle moved out that the learned Professor Higgins learn that he had fallen for her.

I love you, Muscat!  

Muscat views from a window

 

My kitchen is just plain. Like a canvass waiting for an artist. Not so my kitchen window. As I conjure up various creations for my unsuspecting family, I freely take peeks into the world outside.
With a backdrop of one of the world's largest car showrooms, I see many a mahout proudly washing his Corolla or Lancer, the desert sun cooling its heals in the bright evening.
Often I see nimble feet scurrying down the dry narrow "wadi", unmindful of the heat - Omanis must get this naturally or did they learn it from their goats and gazelles ?
 The garbage collector is out on his rounds again today and he is doing an admirable job. I thank him again mentally, for keeping this beautiful country clean.
The traffic on Sultan Qaboos Street is at a standstill. Must be an accident. How I wish it was dancing instead ! Like when Oman won the GCC cup ! What a moment that was !
The Toyota showroom IS busy today. Hope sales are up and the economy healthy. Hope HM's hard work is amply rewarded. Its the evening call for prayer already! gtg... dinner needs fixin